Although it sounds counterintuitive to say that to have better relationships we need to accept ourselves more fully first.
Here’s the thing. When we don’t accept the stuff about ourselves that we don’t want to be, we project what we don’t want to be on others. This is a key lesson on the spiritual journey. What you see in another is a reflection of something you recognize in yourself, whether it be a desired something or not so much.
So, next time you’re mad at your partner or friend, take a moment to breath and ask yourself, what is God showing me, about me? If it’s a highly charged reaction, a small time away from the encounter may be advised to give yourself space.
Once you discover the inner trigger, don’t further beat yourself up, just recognize the need to continue to recognize whatever you see, in yourself.
I had the chance to talk to a friend the other day who’s always talking about this amazing person, or the quality of such and such person, or this amazing thing so and so did. I asked him how much he looks for the good in himself.
Like my friend, I’m guessing many of us focus mostly on what we’re doing wrong or what we could do better. It’s part of our human condition and it has some here and now benefits in modern competitive world.
The problem is that the acceptance for what you are is already done so until you accept you fully, in effect, you’re disagreeing with the Truth of Love. It’s tough to give up the self improvement journey we’ve become accustomed to…
Standing by to help you navigate the journey.