Humility, suffering and heaven.

Can anyone take away our suffering? Has anybody seen our collective humility? In the gospels there are several renditions of the rich young ruler story who approaches Jesus and asks what he might do to “inherit the kingdom of heaven”. The answer is simple but it becomes complex because we don’t like what it says to us.

Our wealth, our power, our position, our prestige and our health often get in the way of our deeper sense and experience of God’s presence in our lives, experiences and hearts, here and now.

The rich young ruler was told, the one thing you lack… “to sell all you have and give to the poor, and you shall find treasure in heaven. Come follow me.” Before we run ahead to the story’s conclusion, let’s take a pause and think in our own lives why Jesus might be giving this advice? Is it to shame those of us with means? To simply help the poor? I might suggest that it is so that both the rich and the poor will know the Love of God. A theological two-for!

As you know in your head, the math works out. The problem is that fear, sadness, jealousy, loneliness, and anger keep showing up within you and thus you need to try NOT to feel or sense those things. How can it be that you have so much and yet you are suffering inside?

Suffering is universal. If you could “buy” your way out of it, someone would have figured out how to already, and could charge a lot for it.

Your ability to be able to be okay with inner suffering (being okay with suffering is another way of describing peace) is proportional to the amount of “wealth” you perceive yourself to have in relationship to others. The more you’ve got, the harder it is to accept all the internal stuff going on with you that you don’t want to be. Certainly, you say, “if I just had more resources, or purchased this or traveled there or got this job, or that thing, or this position, then certainly I would no longer suffer inside.”

Stop kidding yourself.

“But I’ve worked so hard to achieve, to make, to save, to succeed…” you say. “All so I can avoid suffering! And you say I CAN’T avoid suffering?”

Silence ….

If you’re feeling sad, angry, scared, stupid, misled, self-righteous, etc. at this point in the blog, stay with that feeling you don’t want for 1 minute. Or 2 if you’re feeling really brave.

Further silence if you dare …

“When the young man heard this, he went away sad because he had great wealth.” – Matthew 19:22

Point made… still had his great wealth and still suffering. If you’re finding yourself with an abundance and are still suffering, you are in good company.

Looking forward to hearing about your thoughts, feelings and experiences.

How is what you notice guiding you?

The other day I was talking to a friend about spiritual guidance and they asked about a situation some close friends were in and what did I think was going on in their situation?

I paused for a moment and then began explaining how spiritual guidance might best approach his question.

I told my friend that his noticing the situation and bringing it up in conversation with me was a sure sign of the Divine’s guidance within him. I shared that although we often put up barriers or misconstrue Love’s emergence, it is just such situations like the one he described that point to something deeper within him, something he might want to explore.

“Life is set up to bring up what has been bound up, so it can open up to be freed up, so you can show up for life.”
― Mary O’Malley

I like the directness of Mary’s quote. Whatever is arising for us is a pointer to something deep within. What is arising may be cloaked with whatever we see and project outward but with some attention placed on it for a few minutes we can often discover what it is that is emerging within.

If you’re having trouble accessing the deeper truth that may be emerging, there are a number of practices that can help. If you’re a head centered person, try a form of Lectio Divina, if a heart centered person, try a heart focused meditation and of you’re a body (gut) centered person, try a breathing practice where you move breath and awareness around your body.

Here for you as needed. – marv@souljrnys.com